Matthew, 21 from Montana writes…

My new wife won’t let me attend the gentlemen’s clubs. Before we married she did not seem to care, now she forbids me and I don’t like it. She is telling me that I need to be faithful to her. It is common sense she should not be in the places men are stripping, but men should be able to relax at the strippers and unwind, my wife doesn’t get that. I don’t want to budge on this; I want to go with my pals whether she knows about it or not – am I wrong doc.

Dr Thatslife has this to say….

You’re right and wrong. You’re right that men do benefit from going to strip clubs, as it satisfies their primal need for having a naked 6 foot 2 blond’s melon-like tits pluck rolled up dollar bills out of their mouths. Going with buddies to the strippers really is a male bonding ritual most guys, both single and married, enjoy once in a while. You’re wrong however, to expect that your strip club access-pass will get renewed when you exchanged your girlfriend for a wife, and then slam her with the double standard that you can go to such venues but she can’t.

It’s pretty much universal that telling the wife or girlfriend you’re heading off to the rippers is optional (read, you forget to mention). Telling them you’re going to watch the bouncing tits of a couple dozen painfully attractive ladies at the local nudie bar only creates feelings of insecurity, jealousy, and so forth – essentially women see it as a threat to the relationship (particularly wives). Wives and girlfriends are very much the “caretakers” of relationships, and that title brings the duty of objecting to things that may put the relationship in jeopardy. This includes such activities as watching stunningly hot cock bait strut naked across a stage specifically with the intent of tantalizing you. She’s only doing what she’s intuitively programmed to do – don’t lose sight of that.

You may (whether she has any intention to do so or not) reject the idea of your wife visiting clubs to watch chiseled men flop their cocks out on the ridiculous grounds it’s inappropriate for a lady to do so. But the reality is that you don’t want her to go for the same reasons she doesn’t want you to go. You’re worried she’s going to enjoy herself a little too much and end up smoking some guy’s pole or hook up with one of them for midnight rendezvous at the local Shady Trees Motel – don’t bullshit me otherwise.

We both know that in the vast majority of cases everyone is at these places for a little fun leering at some fleshy bits and then heading home back to flog their loving partners. It really comes down to that old saying of “going out to get your appetite but always eating at home.” There are exceptions to that, there’s always going to be cases where guys manage to get their fingers wet, or chicks having a tug at Cyclops, which really isn’t appropriate if you’re married. But I’m gathering you’re just there to gawk at naked women, in which case I’d say it’s perfectly fine to hit a club once and a while with the buddies and forget to mention it to wifey.

Yes, people could argue that this is deceitful, which it is – let’s be honest. However, it really works out the best for everyone. Guys go to strip clubs, and to be ‘the guy’ that always bails out of a group of men going to the clubs, wreaks havoc with that guy’s place in the group. This is powerful shit. To say “I can’t go because wifey says so” is like checking your balls into the No Friends Hotel; you instantly get demoted down the male chain of command, and women will never appreciate that. The second part is that her knowing will cause infinitely more problems short and long term than not knowing ever will. This really is just innocent white lie stuff. It keeps you happy, her happy and nobody gets hurt and resentful. If she catches you though, well, that’s a whole other consultation. Booyah!

That’s life!