Anthony, 34 from McKinney, Texas writes…

My girlfriend refuses me access to check her email in case she cheating on me. What should I tell her so she will let me see them. What if she seeing some other guys and I don’t know!!

Dr Thatslife has this to say….

Are you a moron? Do you honestly think she would be corresponding with her lover on her regular email account? You can rifle through the drudgery that is her regular email account – just remember all the action is happening in her garbage Hotmail account you’ll never know about.

Respect her fucking privacy dude, even an ounce of maturity on your part would go a long way here, it’s like I’m listening to a zit popping high schooler. Your girlfriend must be constantly having to justify and substantiate social interactions with anyone outside of yourself – and this suffocating environment will inevitably drive her away from you, not closer to you. Yes you heard me right, your meddling will only FUEL exactly what you’re trying to prevent.

Insecurity breeds more insecurity. The more you fester over what your girlfriend’s up to, the more it will consume you and build an ever more elaborate latticework of bullshit in your mind. Ultimately, insecure people that easily become consumed with jealousy will partner with people that play on those insecurities. No kidding! Ever wonder why you always seem to choose “aloof” girlfriends that you find difficult to trust? It’s because your insecurities are choosing them for you. Take a long hard look at your past and present relationships, see the pattern?

Basically, the less you worry, the more peaceful everything becomes, so that you can actually ENJOY the relationship you have with this woman. You don’t own her, so let her off the leash and TRUST HER until she proves otherwise (i.e. having a spent rubber fall out of her goochie after getting back late from her “friend‘s” place).

That’s life!