Neil, 26 from Buffalo, NY writes…

The other day when my girlfriend that lives with me was at work and I had the day off, I went through the Internet history on her notebook and saw she had been looking at porno sites. The problem is a handful of them were sites focused on naked girls, like the sites I would visit, some of them were even sites featuring lesbian videos. This has led me to wonder if she’s bi or gay, and I have started to worry about this. I haven’t confronted her about what I saw or asked her anything. What the heck do you think I should do? The whole thing has left me anxious.

Dr Thatslife has this to say….

Oh dear, your girl is checking out hot lesbo action sites… it’s the end of the world as we know it! Seriously, I’d chalk it up to either innocent curiosity (bless her little heart) or the fact that chicks are often more at ease than guys with watching their own kind in porn.

When guys are harvesting the Internet for porn, and accidentally hit something even semi-gay, they’re blowing chunks and gouging their eyeballs out with kitchen utensils. Girls on the other hand are a little more likely to wander into gay, lesbian or female content and stick around, as they don’t have that same visceral response. If their tit to dick watching ratio is a bit off kilter, it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re going butch. It also doesn’t usually translate into any real life bisexual activities (read threesomes), as all too many disappointed boyfriends and husbands have discovered.

Think of it this way Neil, just because you one night ventured over to the darker realms of the Internet and watched a midget fisting a horse, doesn’t mean you’re taking day trips out to your neighborhood farm… right?

You also need to keep in mind that just because something is in her Internet history (which, by the way, you’re a dickhead for scavenging through), doesn’t mean she was actively looking at it. Surely you know as well as anyone that when you’re on a jerk-a-thon and plowing through various porn sites, that other sites you didn’t ask for pop-up and open in the background and it basically makes a dumpster fire out of your desk top, right? All those browser windows you’re frantically closing featuring guys docking each other that spawned from sites you were legitimately gawking at – are all sitting in your Internet history, whether you intended to look at them or not. That could very much be the case with your girlfriend too.

If however you’ve been finding that the sack action with your girl has really tapered off lately and you’ve had experiences in the sack with her not interested in the same sexual positions as before or generally being more awkward and disconnected – maybe a little chat getting to the bottom of why things have changed would be in order.

So don’t get your panties in a twist Neil, odds are stupendously high that the sexual orientation of your girl is just fine, lesbian site surfing and all. When she gets home tonight, throw her on the bed, forget about all this, and plow her like the snowy streets of Buffalo on a December winter’s night.

That my friend, is life.