Miranda, 20 from Taylorsville, Utah writes…

I got married a year ago, and within a whole year of being married I feel like I’ve been put in a corner I don’t want to be in. I feel my husband is so addicted to pornography that it’s ruining our relationship. I don’t mind him looking at porn, but he has tried to convince me time and time again to hook up sexually with other men. He tells me constantly that he wants me to go have sex with several men before I go home. It has gotten so bad that during sex he will try to make me promise that I will go hook up as soon as possible. This has made me completely not want to have sex at all ever. I’ve tried to talk to him about how bad it truly bothers me but he does not care. What do I do?

Dr Thatslife has this to say….

I think you’re confusing the issues Miranda… What does your husband wanking off to Internet porn have to do with him pimping you out to random neighborhood men? He may or may not have a porn addiction, but that is a totally separate issue to what I can only imagine to be prostitution. Whether you’re aware of it or not, odds are high he’s trying to sell your “services” to these other men as a way to make some cashola. How else could you explain a husband lining up a bunch of drooling perverts to fuck his wife?

You need to get out of this situation, pronto. Not only is this unhealthy mentally, but the consequences of following through with his desires would be life altering, Miranda. It would profoundly affect you mentally and physically, and he doesn’t seem to give a shit. If you succumb to his requests, and hit the sack with a few men, you would become so demoralized he would literally have a chokehold on you. There wasn’t anything in your consultation about this, but I assume he’s most likely controlling and manipulative in many other ways as well.

I really hate to say it, but if you’ve been dealing with this since the beginning of your marriage, he may very well have married you in the hopes of using you for prostitution or some other similarly fucked up intention. Normal loving couples don’t eagerly persuade each other to get their brains fucked out by strangers – this is NOT a normal part of a marriage, no matter what he tells you. Even if I’m wrong and this has nothing to do with cashing in, and it’s just his jolly friends that want to fill your orifices with their cum, it’s still incredibly wrong.

You need to stand up for yourself, give him a final assertive, non-negotiable “NO” on having sex with other men, and if he doesn’t respect your request you need to immediately start building an action plan to exit the relationship. Source friends, relatives and help groups as your support network; build a cash reserve however you can so you can be self sustaining, and so forth. You need to do this now, not a year from now when you’ve pumped out a child and built other encumbrances and ties to him that would make it more difficult for you to leave. You need to do this NOW.

That’s life.