Brandy, 19 from Chicago, Illinois writes…

My boyfriend is so special to me, him and I have dated for like 2 years now, and it’s getting really serious. The other day, though, I discovered adult web sites on my boyfriend’s Internet bookmarks list. I confronted him about them and after a long heated discussion he swore never to visit porn sites again. The very next week, when I was on his computer I checked his Internet history and found he was still going to these disgusting sites. I’m a very understanding and open minded girlfriend, but this went past the line. I am not sure if I should be with someone that has to lie about watching porn, what do you think?

Dr Thatslife has this to say….

My bullshit senses always tingle when I get consultations from people claiming to be “understanding”, let alone “very understanding“. The fact is, if you were as open minded as you claim, you wouldn’t give a shit about this. Guys watch porn, it’s what they do. If a guy tells you he doesn’t or won’t any more, of course he’s lying through his teeth. He simply wants to put the subject to rest and that’s the easiest way to do it. He was probably prowling the darkest corners of the net watching Bukkake party videos that very night. Seriously, it’s actually none of your business, he isn‘t hurting you nor anyone else. While chicks can lay in a deep soaker tub dreaming of Fabio and rub one out; guys are incredibly reliant on visual stimulation. They need that slap of porn in the face to do the job right. Denying him that will only make you look prudish. And your ongoing spy efforts examining his Internet history are childish to say the least. Grow up and realize that if you are in an otherwise satisfying and fulfilling relationship, leave it at that and don’t complicate things unnecessarily.

That my dear, is life.