I don’t want this guy, I want his friend! Posted February 12th, 2008 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Kathy, 15 from New York writes…

“My boyfriend is away on vacation for a month and even when he wasn’t we never got to talk or see each other. And I want to go out with my ex or his best friend. I would be happy with either. What should I do? And how do I let my boyfriend off easy?”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

So you have obviously concluded that your current boyfriend is just not working out and its write off time. When he returns from his trip, you need to sit down with him and spill it out. Tell him the relationship you have with him is just not what you are looking for, simple as that. As for letting your boyfriend off easy, hooking up with his best friend is hardly the right answer. Don’t you think its going to be a bit of an awkward position dating his best friend, and possibly put big time friction between the whole lot of you?

As for your ex-boyfriend, make sure you remind yourself as to why you dumped the guy or he slam dunked you in the first place, and ask why your really getting back together with him. Maybe you should have a good look around for other options first before going back to old “been there done that” territory. If you two really got along, you would still be together. If you’re in a relationship that your not really that enthused about (example - current one) going back to and ex is just too easy. Try branching out and finding some new guy.

That’s life!