She’s out late at parties instead of seeing me! Posted December 27th, 2007 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Alex, 30 from an unknown place writes…

“I am 30 years old and I have been seeing this married 28 yr old woman for the last 4 years. She says that she can’t go out at night because she is married yet every time that she wants to she is out partying with her friends till 4 or 5 am in the morning. The last time we went out at night past 11:30pm was 20 months ago.

How do I tell her that her actions make me feel so insufficient and insignificant in her life. I feel as if she doesn’t appreciate me. That she takes me for granted.

Sexually she wants to have sex maybe once a month otherwise she says she will feel guilty even though since, she been seeing me she has done an orgy and a threesome and been with other women and men. She says, well that’s different because it was just fun and games or a 1 night stand. With you it’s different I feel guilty because I have serious and genuine feelings for you

I don’t know what to do to help. How do I tell her that I am so unhappy that she is hurting me constantly.

Signed, Alex”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

Wow Alex, you’re telling me you want some level of sympathy for your hurting from a woman who is cheating on her husband with one night stands and orgies? Are you fucking moronic? She can’t go out at night with you because she is probably too busy fucking someone else from the sounds of it. Doesn’t her priorities of going to these parties in stead of seeing you make it clear how dedicated she is to you?

She probably does take you for granted, your the fling on the side! This feeling guilty if she has sex with you more then once a month story is horse shit…She is either fucking you or she isn’t, how many times isn’t the point, its that she has done it at all. Her not seeing you in the evening or at night is also…horse shit. She most likely calls you up to fill her schedule when she isn’t with another fuck friend. This is of course, between the orgies and threesomes which should also tell you a lot about who you are trying to deal with. And those are just the sexual encounters she tells you about, I’m sure there are more Alex… I’d say pull on the Jimmy with this girl…whooooeeeee disease time!

I’m not exactly sure what you are looking for in this relationship with her, physical, friendship, full on relationship… She is most likely thinking of you as a casual encounter, you are thinking its much more. But whatever it is, and how you described the whole thing, I would say get the fuck outta dodge man!

That’s life!