He’s mad I won’t have sex with him when I’m sick! Posted October 12th, 2007 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Lynn, Unknown from America writes…

“My fiancé and I have been together for almost 3 years. I have a tendency to catch a lot of colds and flues. When I’m sick, I just don’t have the urge to be intimate with him and he gets so angry. I have had the flu for almost a
week and we haven’t been together “that way” since I got sick. He is being so cold and distant. I still cook, clean house, and work when I’m sick. I just don’t have enough energy left to be romantic. Is there any thing I can do to make him understand in a way that won’t just make him more angry? He isn’t even talking to me today. HELP!”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

Tell him to FUCK OFF AND GIVE YOU SOME SPACE! Nobody feels particularly romantic with snot dribbling out of their nose. He’s just going to have to grow up and understand that this is life and he is going to have to deal with it. The very last thing you need is some guy sulking around the house and giving you the cold shoulder, all because you’re sick and don’t want to bonk his brains out! Isn’t a husband supposed to be there for you “in sick and in health”? Tada, your sick! If he ain’t there for you now, he sure as hell isn’t going to be when your actually married.

I mean common! The whole concept of a cold is that your tired and have no energy. Getting it on is the LAST thing on your mind. If he’s so keen to release his urges, tell him to go have a tug of war with Cyclops in the fucking can.

Promise him when your better, you’ll be revving to go. But until then, he’s going to have to focus on something other then himself and accept what your going through, and JUST POSSIBLY, help you out and make you feel a bit better, instead of a lot worse. This “not talking to you” stuff is absolutely childish. Is this how he reacts to other things that don’t go his way as well? I bet it is.

That’s Life!