Just found out I am pregnant, what should I do? Posted January 30th, 2008 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Lalina, 16 from Tampa writes…

“I’ve been going out with this guy for like, 10 months, and I just found out I’m pregnant with his baby. My main problem is telling my parents - I know that they’ll be mad, and kick me out of my house… I’ve been debating not telling them until I have the baby, and after I have it moving in with my boyfriend, as he suggested, but being so young, I don’t know if that would be such a good idea…I don’t have a job yet cuz I cant drive myself… what should I do?”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

What you are telling me sounds like a tough situation, but which path to take isn’t a hard decision. You are majorly young to be dealing with this shit. However, I do not think you should just assume your parents will kick you out. Are you basing this on fact or a presumption? Do you honestly think your parents, knowing you are going to have a child, will kick you out onto the streets? I highly doubt they would.

I think you should also tell them what’s going on. Yes of course you will get into major trouble, but the storm will pass. They will be able to provide you with knowledge and extra help that you need in a time like this. Besides, lets get real here, its not as if your going to bring this baby all the way to term without your parents noticing what is happening. Common!

As for hoping in with boyfriend, holy fucking bad idea. Again, you need to be with your parents at home - not off with mister happy dick. Moving in with your buddy there will definitely end much quicker then you think, and you will have to move back in with your parents anyways, but under worse terms. Right? I mean, if you are up front with the parents, explain the situation, ask them for help you will probably go through this ok. If you tell them your running off with sperm boy, and then come back crying that it didn’t work out, I take back everything I said, they will be pissed. Just be honest with everyone and it will all fit into place for you.

That’s life!