He’s well behaved, but I’m not, should I date him? Posted December 30th, 2007 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Becky, 16 from somewhere in America writes…

“I really like this guy I met at a church youth group, but he’s kind of… innocent. He’s a minister’s son, and he thinks he’s too young to date. He’s never had a girlfriend, and I don’t think he’s ever done anything to disappoint his dad. He gets straight A’s, and is in the Bible club at school. All this is great, but I’m not so innocent… I just don’t feel like I can be myself around this guy… what should I do? Should I tell him that I like him? Should I act like a church-girl, or be myself? I REALLY like him. Help me!!!”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

Becky, Becky, Becky… It is time to break this guy in. I say you make it your life’s mission to initiate this poor guy into the real world. If he is 16, hasn’t had a girlfriend, gets awesome school marks, and is in the “bible club” - someone like you coming along is exactly what he needs. His father doesn’t like it? He’s going to have to live with it. There will be plenty of things that will come along in his sons life that will upset this perfect Disney world balance he’s got going. If the father had it his way, his son wouldn’t get any action for the rest of his life… probably end up being weird or something!

You tell him you like him, and absolutely be yourself… There is no point putting an act on because like all acts, it must eventually come to and end or it would be called a reality. It is important particularly in this situation to be yourself. He will decide, based on what he sees, whether the type of person you are, is for him. It may have one of three effects on him…It may disturb him; he may not care at all, or he’ll love the change of pace.

Now I’m not implying you two go out and start one by one breaking all the commandments or anything. I am really saying, he sounds like he just needs to go out and have a good time with a girl doing fun things, with it possibly developing into a relationship.

Have fun…