Girlfriend Caught Me Looking At Other Girl! Posted March 29th, 2010 in Dr Thatslife Advice

Jeremy, 25 from Queens, New York writes…

Me and my girl were out at the mall two weeks ago. There were some fine women walking around but I was keeping cool when we were walking around. Out of nowhere a girl with legs like a damn stripper was walkin’ past and I had to check them out. Well, my girl caught me checkin’ those legs and I’ve been in the dog house ever since. We talking two weeks of her nagging and bitching me about I looked and how she saves herself for me and would never do such things. Is this gonna stop or did I do myself in? She’s hot, so I wasn’t dissing her when I looked at the girl. Doc, I keep telling her it ain’t nothing but she ain’t playin that game. I only date the girl 3 months, what the hell Doc?

Dr Thatslife has this to say….

Right off the bat, saying that she’s saving herself for you and that she would never look at another guy is total crackling oats and straw horse shit. Like biblical proportions, freak of nature horse shit that has the farmer closing off the stable for repairs and restoration work. It is absolutely absurd a 20’s something girl is claiming she isn’t checking out other guys. I would put a stop to this moronic two week display of foolishness just on those grounds alone. She sounds stunningly and stupendously immature.

When she’s out with her girlfriends she’s looking at guys walking past like they’re ripe slabs of dick meat, don’t let her convince you otherwise. Not only that, she wouldn’t survive a day without breaking down in a river of tears if strange men in public spaces weren’t leering at her own goodies. Look at her, is she dressed up like a fucking nun or does she have her tits and ass falling out of her skimpy little fuck me clothes? I thought so. Do you honestly think that’s all just for you? Seriously, we’re all checking each other out in public spaces, just some of us do it more inconspicuously than others. Part of our self image is composed from how others interact with us in public spaces. I bet my right nut she checked out a bunch of guys on that very same trip to the mall she’s been relentlessly slamming you about. The difference is that YOU got caught and she DIDN‘T.

Now on the flip side of this, you can’t be the drooling pervert that you and most guys actually are. Jeremy you have to incorporate more “stealth” and control in those glances of bodily appreciation. If you’re staring with your jaw dropped to the floor and tugging your pants at some totally fucking hot cock bait, then you’re going to get caught, and end up in some ridiculous situation such as this yet again. Keep a lid on it when you’re around your girl, it obviously offends her (as it should); she’s your girlfriend and deserves some respect. She most likely has some pretty deep rooted insecurities, and situations like this don’t help. The real problem here is that she should have let the topic go LONG before now, like before you even left the mall.

So what should you do now? Be a fucking man and tell her the matter is closed. If she starts threatening you about consequences or nattering on about the whole thing again, reiterate the matter is done and over with. She knows she has your attention, you’ve been playing into it, and she’s going to ride that wave as long as she can. Switch sides and take control – right fucking now.

That’s life man.