Thinks of me as a fuck friend but I want more! Posted March 3rd, 2008 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Cheri, 18 from East Troy writes…

“I have this close friend, and we have been sex friends for a while now. It was going on while he was dating his ex girlfriend, and when they broke up, I assumed I’d take her place. I was wrong, now he has another girlfriend, and it is still going on. I was really hoping to get with this guy, but he gives me the line that he thinks of me as his sister…that’s just sick and wrong, and I don’t see how that is possible, when a half an hour after he says that, he will take me to a secret spot and screw my brains out. I wonder if he is afraid to go out with me because he thinks our friends will figure it out, or if he is just using me. I know you are going to say to get rid of him, but he is one of my best friends, he tells me everything, and he is really good in bed, so I’m not gonna do that. Should I stop wishing and pursuing this, or should I confront him about it? I have no idea what is going through his head, and I don’t know what to do!!!”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

Hahaha, thinks of you as his sister… Yeah, that is sick. This is what you get from being a fuck friend Cheri, situations like this. No matter how much you try, there is almost always hope in your mind for more commitment or more SOMETHING attached to fuck friends. Because in the end, they are unfulfilling emotionally. AS LONG AS YOU’RE GETTING YOUR BRAINS FUCKED OUT BY HIM - YOU WILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM. This is life, this is how the mind works - you cant just detach yourself from someone you are sharing the most intimate experience with!!! It is that simple. If you like the sex, that’s fine, but just keep in mind, you will always have these uneasy feelings. Decide if you are able to deal with them. You ask what is going through his head? “Cheri is a fuck friend!” is what’s going through his head. I can’t make it any simpler then that, except to say that he HAS A GIRLFRIEND. You have officially been designated as the “girl on the side” in his mind.

“Thinks of you as his sister”, hahaha, have a good long look at that comment before doing anything too serious with this guy…

That’s Life!