Should I bust a move on this chick at work? Posted December 9th, 2007 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Neo, 19 from Salt Lick (huh?) writes…

“This girl I work with has become one of my best friends. We have a lot of fun when we work together, because no one really monitors us. We go out occasionally as friends and hang out at each others house. When we goof around like drawing on each other with markers or there is a lot of touching going on. I think I’m starting to like her and I’m not sure if I should ask her out or how I should ask help me, thank you.”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

Guy, if she’s drawing with markers on you and playing the touching game, your in! Go for it man, in stead of asking “should I?” ask, “why wouldn’t I?”. Sounds like you two hit it off well, why not hit it off really well?

Just break it to her when you two are out on one of your “occasional hanging out” sessions and just say something along the lines of “I really enjoy the time we spend together and I was hoping to take it to the next level”. Not in those words of course because they are just plain cheesy, but you get the picture. Also you need to make it very clear to her that no matter what her answer is or whatever happens, you still want to at least be friends and that her friendship is very valuable to you. If you’re worried that she is going to give you the big “access denied”, its just part of the risk you got to take to get something good - right?

The only thing I can add, is a warning. Keep in mind your working with this chick. Say for example you two decide to start dating, she’s in your face all day, and then regularly at night. Is this something that you don’t mind, or is it going to be overdose before long? Also, if things for some reason fuck up in the relationship, guess what? She’s still working there too - holy awkward Batman!

But hey, that’s life…