Cheated on my girl with my cousin’s girlfriend! Posted December 21st, 2007 in Dr Thatslife Advice

 Craig, 16 from Melbourne, Australia writes…

“Hi there well I have this cousin who is a best mate and well both of us have girls friends and one day when I was with his girl friend I walked her home to her house ( cause I thought it was the right thing to do ) and she invited me in so I went in and she said that she thought I was really sexy and she wanted to have sex with me and well I did do it accidentally and well now I feel bad cause I cheated on my girl friend and my cousin doesn’t know that I had sex with his girl friend. What should I do I need help really badly?”

 Dr Thatslife has this to say…

Wow Craig… You really fucked things up big time… “Accidentally” of course! I mean none of us ever actually have sex on purpose, we just slip up and bang… we are porkin’ some ohhh… cousin’s girlfriend…

Craig, there are two ways you can approach this problem. One, you can do it the easy way, and not tell anyone, hoping that nobody ever finds out. Or two, be up front, honest and willing to be a man and tell them that you were a complete fucking moron, had sex with your cousins girlfriend and it won’t happen again.

You did this to a family member man, that’s pretty fucked up. It’s bad enough dicking the girlfriend of a guy you don’t know - but your own cousin?

My advice is to take option two without hesitation. If you guys are all fairly close, like it sounds you are, this sort of stuff eventually gets found out. Wouldn’t you rather be honest and tell, rather then these people finding out later on. They will hate you a lot more for it if you had kept it a secret and they just happened to find out. I know it’s tough advice, but that’s the only advice I can ever give in fucked up circumstance like this. When doing this you should also tell your cousins girlfriend that she should do the same.

When you are honest with people about things you regret, it really does help the situation. It tells them that you recognize what you have done is wrong and you want to correct it. Keeping it a secret says to the other person or people “I DON’T GIVE A SHIT ABOUT YOU!”… That just gets them, understandably, pretty damn upset with you. And yes, not telling someone something is just as bad as lying to them about it.

That’s Life!